5 Reasons a daily skin care regimen is important

1. Fight Dry Skin - A daily skin care regimen fights dry skin and keeps your skin looking clean and feeling good. No one likes dry skin because  it's itchy, it's painful and it can lead to cracking which is not healthy. No matter what skin type you have; Oily, Dry, Normal or combination - it is important to moisturize it two times a day. It does not make your skin more oily, in fact it is actually absorbing those oils and keeping your face moisturized and supple.

2. Fight Aging - We all want to look healthy and young and a skin care regimen is just the secret for this. Taking care of our skin on a daily basis with effective products can help fight aging spots and wrinkles. Proper skin care is so important for our physical appearance. 
Why does this matter you ask?


Close your eyes - Think of someone you love very very much!



What comes to mind?

I bet it was their face, am I correct?

So think of this, how do you want your loved ones to remember you?


3. It's Healthy -  Healthy & Supple skin is so important, especially in the winter. The reason we have skin is to protect our bodies insides, our skin is our largest organ and serves a very important purpose. When our skin is dry, cracked or starts to become flaky, it has a harder time being our defense and fighting off potential disease.

4. It boosts self -esteem - A daily skin care regimen can help fight rashes, acne and keeps you feeling confident all day long because you know you took the proper steps to caring for your skin.  When you put time in for yourself, don't you notice that you just feel confident and happy because you did your part for yourself?

5. Protects you from skin cancer - {Okay so this one is just relating to the use of daily sun screen} No matter how long you are out in the sun; your skin is being damaged by the sun. Even on those snowy winter days the sun can still hurt and affect you. The sun emits harmful UV rays year round which then can potentially lead to skin cancers. Sunscreen helps protect you against these UV rays and sun spots keeping you healthy and happy.

So after learning all about this, how can you not invest in a skin care regimen?

{I will be showing you 3 different types of skin care regimens from Mary Kay products soon.}

My business in the making...

It's official...WAHOO.

www.ashleymariefrederickson.com

I am so excited about my launch of my new website.

I still plan on blogging lots on this little blog of mine

but my website is the source to learn more about me 

and my business in the making.

It's my website for pageant coaching,

self-esteem consulting

and my notebook shop 

and SO much more!!!

Go Check it Out

I am starting a "Ask AshleyMarie column"

that will include all sorts of self esteem advice.

You can email me at AshleyFrederickson@marykay.com

with any questions that relate to self esteem, beauty

health, boys, friends, life choices, style, feelings,

and any other topic that relates to self-esteem.

You can be anonymous, make up a secret code name

or stay true to your skin - - it doesn't matter!

Then every Wednesday, I will answer two questions here on 

THIS blog!

I am also planning a big Mother daughter Self Esteem workshop.

Want to get involved or be apart of it in any way?

Leave a comment below.

Dear Future Husband

I have created a list of what attributes I want to find in my future husband!

The point of this list is for me to become everything on it.

If I want a guy who is everything on this list,

chances are he has a list for his future wife too!

So the goal is for me to match the list.

I shouldn't be worrying so much about who he is

as long as I am working on becoming the person I expect to find!

So read my list, steal some or steal all if you want...

then go make your own and hang it!

1. Patient - Please be patient with me. I will probably be moody or demanding at times.

 I also have OCD, I'm working on overcoming it but please be patient with me.

2. Funny - Some days I am just going to need a good laugh.

 I want to marry a guy who has a good sense of humor, I believe life
is more worthwhile when you can find humor in the every day things.

3. Honest - I expect you to tell me the truth in all that you do. I want to be honest with you

about EVERYTHING! This is the secret to a good marriage - no secrets!

4. Surprises - Going back to the whole honesty thing, I LOVE surprises!
When you surprise me, white lies are OK! :)

Read my journal for ideas on what I love and what I don't , ask my friends for surprise ideas

but surprise me often! I love a good romantic surprise!

Come home and suprise me with my favorite music, with my favorite food!

5. Integrity - Have morals and values and stick to them.
Let's live a good life together by sticking to
high standards and beliefs.
If one of us is tempted to do something, I want us to be 
dependable to each other to encourage the other to make a better decision.

6. Forgiving - Forgive me when I make a mistake. Say sorry to me first.

I think of the marrige I want to have and I
want it to be a competition for us to say sorry first.

I am stubborn. {my mom believes it's because I am a leo}

So this is going to be a hard one for me but I promise I will be working on it.

7. Motivated - Set out goals and dreams for yourself! Then do everything it 
takes to achieve. Life isn't worth living if you aren't working on a goal in life.

8. A dreamer - I am a major dreamer and I need you to dream as well.
I often find new neighborhoods to drive around in.
Neighborhoods that have gorgeous yards and inspiring views.
I go out looking for the most perfect home and I say to myself, I am going to live 
there one day. I dream of a beautiful kitchen, bathrooms that make you feel at peace
and a home that you can be pleased to live in because you worked HARD
to afford it.

9. Athletic - Now I am not athletic nor will I ever be. I don't care if you are good at 
sports or not. I just care that you find great pride in taking care of yourself.
In exercising regularly to have a healthy and fit body. 
(I wouldn't complain if you had a 6-pack)

Dear Future Husband,

Here are some side notes that you should be aware of for our proposal!

I would truly loved to be proposed at "The Roof" in the Joseph Smith building.
Have you seen it, it is BEAUTIFUL!!

I don't want the ring put in my food, please don't make me dig for a ring.
That seriously just isn't classy.

Love, Ashley

10 life skills pageants teach you

Miss America will be on TOMORROW on abc.

(check your local listings to find out the time)

In honor of Miss America week I wanted to try and break some stereotypes

 about pageants and tell you

10 life skills that pageants can teach you.

Competing for Miss Murray may have been one of the greatest things I have done in my life from all the skills I was taught and the lessons I learned that have prepared me to live in this world. 

As Miss Murray 2006, Lindsey Smith says

"It is not the outcome of the pageant that changes you, it is the involvement and preparation."

It shaped me into my best self!

1. Confidence

There is nothing that builds more confidence than walking on stage in a swim suit and high heels! As you compete, you will have to start doing many things that will quickly get you out of your comfort zone. You immediately build confidence by going through the interview preparation process and the on-stage question portion of the pageant.

As you start to prepare for a pageant, you realize that you are capable of so much more than you ever thought was possible. A radiant new you begins to shine through the hard work you put in day by day.

Desiring to win a pageant and take the crown is a great dream to have! Dreams propel us to where we are meant to be. As you work hard giving everything you can to the dream that has been set in your heart, you become changed from the inside out. Having a dream creates so much confidence that can set you free and help you become who you were always meant to be. 

2. Service

Choose a platform you are SO PASSIONATE about and then tell the world to look out! 

When you choose a cause that is so dear to your heart, nothing in the world is going to stop you from serving! I have always loved service, but I didn't know how to reach 

out of my little comfort zone to make a difference. As I competed I started realizing how much I could do just in my own community, I started to touch lives and help others more than I ever dreamed of.

Pageants are the perfect outlet for you to give your whole heart to a cause or nonprofit that you believe in. You learn so much about marketing, fundraising, selflessly giving, and so much more!

I grew up loving service, but through pageants, I learned about how much I loved service in a new light and a new way. I was able to touch hearts that I had been missing without the competition. The pageant opened many doors for me to serve and it created this passion that is now forever written upon my heart!

3. Style

Thank goodness for Miss America giving me a reason to work on my outer beauty. 

While this isn't the most important part of the competition, it shows that you care about yourself and people trust people who take care about their-selves!

Also, this is another way to boost that confidence. You just feel happy and can focus on others when you dress the part of a confident girl!

It also taught me to be confident in me and my style. There is no set standard of beauty and we all have different styles. Pageants allow you to embrace who you are and your own style! Be confident in just being you!

4. Scholarship

There are so many opportunities for earning scholarship money through pageants!

Once you get past the local competition, the scholarships open up even more!

Scholarships are one of the greatest tools you can have to get you through school.

I earned a few scholarships on my journey and they were a 

tremendous blessing to me as I pay every penny for school out of my own pocket.

5. Success

Simply put, pageants give you a desire to live the most successful life you can dream of. 

They create a desire and passion within you to become successful in school, successful in a family life, and to have successful relationships. They create this passion within you to make success a reality in all areas of your life.

Pageants help you think out of your box, dream big, and give you hope that you can do the impossible!

6. Talent

Growing up, I took very little dance before my family realized we just couldn't afford it. After that, I never really had very many opportunities to develop a talent. Talents open your mind, give you purpose, and allow you to express yourself in creative ways.

I was so thankful for my competing in pageants to give me a second chance at developing a talent. I can now play the piano more than I ever thought would be possible.

Every talent takes time and dedication which wherein right there creates self-discipline that will overflow into all other areas of life! Choose a talent, work hard at it, and you have one of the biggest secrets to success in the palm of your hand.

7. Motivation

When competing in a pageant, you are working towards a goal that you are excited about! You can't help but feel motivated to do everything in your power to become your best self! Competing gave me motivation to reach my fullest potential. Preparing for a pageant gives you a reason to get out of bed every morning, you are motivated and

inspired by the dream in your heart and the competition ahead.

8. Health

Goodness, I hate to admit this one, but exercising and eating healthy wasn't always

something that came natural to me. In the pageant world, you have to work HARD no matter what body shape you have. Working out and clean eating starts to become a habit the more you practice it and understand it. Your mind and body feel so good because of the way you start caring for it. Pageants shouldn't be the only reason you choose to care for your body though! Set goals for your health and make them happen!

9. Current Events & more informed voting

 I never really cared about the news or about important topics that such as history and politics until I started studying for the pageant and realized just how much they affect me  personally. Pageants changed my view on the subjects that I was overlooking and taking for granted. Because current events are a very prominent subject in your personal interview, you have to obtain the knowledge about history and current events to create an opinion on your belief. This therefore equates to more knowledge about politics and politicians, leading you to be a more informed voter!

I have a lot more gratitude for the country that I live in and the freedoms that we exercise here, now that my mind has been opened. I also take more pride in voting because I recognize the influence I have and I want to use my voice to make a difference.

Plus knowing about current events gives you something to talk about with others when carrying a conversation.

10. Communication

In preparing for a pageant you get the opportunity of meeting so many different people.

Communication skills are naturally developed as you start talking to people every day.

Once you prepare for a pageant interview, you can handle ANY interview that ever comes your way.

Good Morning

Every morning I put on this song and blast it up as loud as my ihome allows.
Then I dance around my house pretending to be the best dancer ever. 
It makes an incredible start to a good day, gets my blood flowing and puts me
in the BEST. MOOD. EVER.

You should try it!
See if it doesn't boost your confidence and help you realize that no matter what happens,
today is going to be a good day!

Enjoy.

Meeting 100 People

I have been a Mary Kay Beauty Consultant for almost 4 years now. 
I love it for one main reason... I get to meet people.

With Ashley from the Shine Project's new challenge -- #100peopleproject I have
felt more motivated to work my Mary Kay business.

Some of you may know a lot about Mary Kay and you have your opinions and some of you
may barely know anything about Mary Kay or still think of it as your grandma's skin care brand.
Whatever the case may be, it doesn't matter...that is not the point of this post.

The point is, at first I thought Ashley's project was crazy.
Yes I thought it was a BRILLIANT idea, but just not for people like me.
People that are shy and have a hard time asking a friend for advice or a story,
let alone a stranger you met 5 minutes ago.
Man I LOVE her ideas that really get me thinking, do I have the courage to do this?

I instantly thought of my Mary Kay career and how I have been "dreaming" 
of earning a Mary Kay car.
This has been my dream for the past two years. 
The problem with this dream though is to make it happen, I need more customers
and to get customers I need to meet new people.

This has always held me back. I am completely tied up in my comfort zone.
In Mary Kay, we are trained to "warm chatter".
Warm Chattering is starting up a conversation with a stranger in the grocery store, doctors office 
or just anywhere you find yourself throughout the day.
You just strike up a conversation with them, then you ask if they are available to come 
get some pampering for free and come to a skin care class.

I love my Mary Kay business because it allows me to meet people I think I 
need in my life or people that I think need me in theirs.
I love that Mary Kay allows me to make a difference in so many
different lives.
Now I have to admit, I have only warm chattered about 5 different times
throughout my whole 4 years of being apart of Mary Kay.
But I remember each and every single one of those times I dared to go out of 
my comfort zone and talk to them.
I remember the look they gave me when I approached them.
It was like a look of humility like "thank you so much for talking with me today and making
me feel important."
Some would say yes and some would say no, but that didn't matter to me.
I just remember being changed for going out of my comfort zone and daring to talk with them.

So I started second thinking my decision to participate in #100peopleproject
What if participating in this project helped me move up in my business, gave me more confidence 
and courage, and allowed me touch more lives than I ever thought was possible.
What if there is someone who is meant to be in my life and the 
only way that will happen is if I am the one that approaches people.

In Mary Kay -- we have this poem. "Maybe she needs me"

It had been a long day, I was finishing a task,
and as I hurried past her, a little voice said, "Ask!"
"Oh, not today," I told myself, "I'm tired, and it shows.
Besides, I might look foolish, and she'd likely just say 'no.'"
While drifting off to sleep that night, I saw her face again.
I wondered what her life was like...her needs, her dreams, her pain.
What if she'd been wishing for a friendly word and smile,
a chance to know somebody who would go the extra mile?
What if she'd been waiting for a break, an open door?
Was this the opportunity that she'd been praying for?
I saw the cars she might not drive, the rings she might not wear,
because I would not risk myself to stop, to ask, to care.
So what if what I offer her is not her cup of tea?
That's a choice for HER to make. How selfish can I be?
Oh, let me live the true "go-give," and let my mission be...
not to think, "Do I need her?" but, "Maybe she needs me."

So it is official. I am going to meet 100 people. 
Because warm chattering and this project are so similar, I am going to
tie them together and share with you experiences throughout my journey.

I plan on this being a really hard thing for me to do, one that will take discipline and
courage but one that will leave me forever changed.

Are you in? Are you going to do it with me?
 Leave a comment and let me know you are on board too. 

New Year's Resolutions

I have always loved New Year's. 

Every year it comes I love to reflect on my past year 

and all the ways I have grown.

I love thinking back on the lessons I learned over the year and 

the new ones I hope to learn.

New year's is a time of new beginnings for me.

It's a time for me to start over and create new goals.

A time where I feel it is a fresh start to reach 

my divine potential.

Yesterday I spent all day cleaning and rearranging my room 

so I could have a fresh start for the new year.

I am even thinking of painting it, any ideas?

Well every Monday I am going to show you my 

5 new goals for the week

you are more than welcome to join in with me! 

Please comment if you do...I love knowing there is 

someone out there working on the same goals as me!

I made a cute board for my challenges to hang in my bedroom 

so I can see them and be reminded of them often.

{Tutorial coming this week!}

Make 2013 the best year you can!

This is YOUR year! :)